ladies, let's learn to take a compliment

April 23, 2019

notes

I thought it was just a personal problem. The habit of redirecting every compliment I receive to it's "rightful home" (read: anything that isn't me). But after a recent attempt to acknowledge a woman in a fitness class for crushing a particular exercise and receiving the response of  "Oh, it's just the coffee" it struck home how ubiquitous this behavior is. And now it's consuming my attention. I even found myself today prematurely concocting a reason why I was wearing a nice jumpsuit, just in case someone complimented me on it.  I know I always feel very awkward when any sort of spotlight is taken to me and the quickest way out is a simple deflection. What crazy backwards mind palace am I living in? Oh, ya the one that has been built on a foundation of lack of worth mixed in with decades of cultural training.

Many of us seem to be conditioned to immediately pass on recognition for the things we do and attribute it to someone (or more frustratingly someTHING) else. It is almost a twisted version of humility and I no longer want a part of it. Sharing praise and lifting others up around us is a noble goal, but dis-owning our part in it completely is another.

Instead, how about you and I try a simple "thank you"? Being gracious while also owning the shit out who we are and what we do.

Harder still, can we start addressing the behavior in the women around us as well? Generating a space in which the badass women we interact with learn to take the compliment and stay in that recognition for at least a moment? If someone tries to re-direct my compliment I hope I have both the wherewithal and the courage to gently push back try to not let them refuse the attention.

Cheers to the hard work around every corner.

see more of our upcoming class dates

ladies, let's learn to take a compliment

April 23, 2019

notes

I thought it was just a personal problem. The habit of redirecting every compliment I receive to it's "rightful home" (read: anything that isn't me). But after a recent attempt to acknowledge a woman in a fitness class for crushing a particular exercise and receiving the response of  "Oh, it's just the coffee" it struck home how ubiquitous this behavior is. And now it's consuming my attention. I even found myself today prematurely concocting a reason why I was wearing a nice jumpsuit, just in case someone complimented me on it.  I know I always feel very awkward when any sort of spotlight is taken to me and the quickest way out is a simple deflection. What crazy backwards mind palace am I living in? Oh, ya the one that has been built on a foundation of lack of worth mixed in with decades of cultural training.

Many of us seem to be conditioned to immediately pass on recognition for the things we do and attribute it to someone (or more frustratingly someTHING) else. It is almost a twisted version of humility and I no longer want a part of it. Sharing praise and lifting others up around us is a noble goal, but dis-owning our part in it completely is another.

Instead, how about you and I try a simple "thank you"? Being gracious while also owning the shit out who we are and what we do.

Harder still, can we start addressing the behavior in the women around us as well? Generating a space in which the badass women we interact with learn to take the compliment and stay in that recognition for at least a moment? If someone tries to re-direct my compliment I hope I have both the wherewithal and the courage to gently push back try to not let them refuse the attention.

Cheers to the hard work around every corner.

Instead, how about you and I try a simple "thank you"? Being gracious while also owning the shit out who we are and what we do.

Harder still, can we start addressing the behavior in the women around us as well? Generating a space in which the badass women we interact with learn to take the compliment and stay in that recognition for at least a moment? If someone tries to re-direct my compliment I hope I have both the wherewithal and the courage to gently push back try to not let them refuse the attention.

Cheers to the hard work around every corner.

see more of our upcoming class dates